I remember having a wayyyy eye-opening experience in 2004 when I first met someone my friend was seeing and their shirt read something like “Please tell me about your band.” Because I probably would have…
“Everybody is too busy with their own lives to give a damn about your book, painting, screenplay… Making a big deal over your creative shtick to other people is the kiss of death.”
From Ignore Everybody, by author and cartoonist Hugh MacLeod
It took everything I had to NOT tell her about our band. I’m always open to learning and seeing where I can improve so this was pivotal — still is even years later.
We just kicked it like regular peeps. What a concept!
They eventually came out to some of our shows, had a blast, blogged about our stuff, and introduced me to a super dear friend.
None of this would have happened if I pushed my band/art/religion/politics right off. The creative sharing happened naturally, teaching me a necessary lesson in humility and listening.
As artists and as people, it’s great to have reminders to listen and learn before diving in with our stuff. Using this as another one for me.