A spike in the normal is what’s needed for real change – the kind of change no one is prepared for or wants – since it would be a lot easier if we all stayed in our same old patterns. The problem is these patterns are doing more than blindly moving us through days. They create lasting and building impressions on us that can lead to stuff breaking down – like a car at over 100,000 miles.
Real change is hard. 99.9% of the world doesn’t know you or care if it happens, and to make it even harder – the people who do love you and want you to do you to the utmost inadvertently support and reinforce your OG patterns (except for the people around you inspiring change – maybe write down who this is in your life and try to hang with them more)! The people closest to you will benefit from who shows up when you decide to be who you are right now vs your default self pulling from years of patterns that might not be serving anyone anymore.
These norms are so ingrained in how we communicate changing is challenging – but isn’t most important stuff?
Think about how easy it is to get weird in front of strangers. Costume up and walk down a busy street on Halloween (or Tuesday), holler from a car window as a teen: amazing stuff. Easy and while kinda fun on the surface -zero challenge. Changing in front of friends and family is – so lean into it this year! Ditch the default – be 100% you. Does the fam want a weird you-robot version 2.0 flying across the country to hang? Or the dope inspiring person you actually are, above what’s normal?
It’s like going from kid to teen. That era when you get GI Joes and Public Enemy or Nirvana tapes on the same bday. Or from teen to adult (by that I of course mean 14-30), when you get bottles of booze and inspiring art. It’s possible a party lifestyle and the patterns that surface can leave you with addiction, poor health, weirdly sporadic motivation – and the easiest vibe to find and hang on to is everyone still wanting you to be that old self who goes hard and gets weird (challenging?).
The people who love you will be down to see doing things to improve your life. People that miss you are plagued by fear of change and FOMO. Be you. That’s the heaviest thing you can do. Do it for you. And for the one life you have – even more, the moments you have because life can mean a lot of things, so start with today.
Forget normal. Save time, live bold. What’s a more awesome, inspiring, and challenging path? What’s a change you could make today that would hype up the people around you to better themselves?
Dreaming about a cool future sitch where I get to see a good friend I haven’t seen in too long, meet his young kid, and spend more time with his dope partner. Thinking of awesome this will be, and realizing the best way to get ready is be me right now.
The better I do right now at living right – the way I know I can – physically, mentally, hype-spiritually – the more prepared and better space I’ll be in when I visit. I have to kill it now to be my best self there/then.
If my time before this is ill-willed or negatively spent in some way I wouldn’t show up feeling as awesome. I’d be coming off a bunch of crap and bringing it to him and his family.
We’ve all been there – had a wack argument or drama-type-situation and brought that helpless anger directly to the next situation. Or been a bit down and out and realizing you don’t want to see friends or fam right now. It’s totally true that friends and fam are probably the best support in these times – and I’m all about reaching out for it! But I can also make moves to focus on dialing my shit and just being with them.
It’s kind of a nice double-up – you get to rep for the friends/fam you’re about to see and be motivated to supercharge your life today.
Gonna do my best to live this! Maybe it will work for you too 🧡💙
Welcome to the happiest 4 seconds of music I can think of – on repeat.
Ever since revisiting Friends by Whoodini all these cuts moved in my head (again).
First was DOOM’s Deep Fried Frenz off the MM..Food LP (just listened to this podcast w DOOM yesterday – so good, so inspiring!) – then after playing that and the inster for it (also included here) for days I got back into the og sample: Ronnie Laws Friends and Strangers.
I had a tape with a live version of the Ronnie Laws cut back in the day… It eventually died from overplaying. Second jam of the week from that tap actually – here’s the first. Not sure there’s a happier tune/loop and so nice to hear DOOM riff it.
Peep the archived Jam of the Week playlist on Spotify and YouTube
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